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Depression. Did It Break or Make Me?

I can’t really give an exact date as to when I started noticing that I was suffering from depression, anxiety
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Depression. Did It Break or Make Me?

If you’re blue today or any other Monday, change your mindset?

Blue Monday, not just a song by New Order, but a day, today, Monday 15th January 2018, when we all
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If you’re blue today or any other Monday, change your mindset?

Would you allow anyone to treat you as badly as you treat yourself?

Last night I was invited to a belated Christmas party. The company that I left two years ago to work on
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Would you allow anyone to treat you as badly as you treat yourself?

Modern man cannot cope with life

I remember listening to Blur's seminal album "Modern Life is Rubbish" and marvelling at its cover (the Mallard train) and
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Modern man cannot cope with life

White children are more likely to suffer mental health issues

White children are more likely to suffer mental health issues than their peers, a major study has found. The rise of
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White children are more likely to suffer mental health issues

STRESS wrecked my THYROID big time  …and now it’s trying to wreck my GUT.

I didn’t even know I had a thyroid gland until the consultant told me in no uncertain terms that mine
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STRESS wrecked my THYROID big time   …and now it’s trying to wreck my GUT.

Humans are habitual – learn how to change thought patterns.

Humans are habitual - learn how to change thought patterns. Repetition, repetition and more repetition. Insanity is doing the same thing over
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Humans are habitual – learn how to change thought patterns.

Donald Trump – is he mentally ill?

The revelations in Michael Wolff’s explosive book about Donald Trump’s first year in office have renewed scrutiny of the president’s
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Donald Trump – is he mentally ill?

No job is worth your mental health

I'm currently witnessing, with others, a pattern that happened to me. At the risk of sounding like a stuck record, I
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No job is worth your mental health

Resolution for 2018 – I’ve had enough…the change starts from now!!

I was thinking of something profound to share with YOU for New Year’s Eve…but I simply can’t beat the short
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Resolution for 2018 – I’ve had enough…the change starts from now!!

Is piss-poor management responsible for causing STRESS in the workplace?

Many years ago, the chairman of a very successful manufacturing company, during one of our occasional chats, told me this
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Is piss-poor management responsible for causing STRESS in the workplace?

Three reasons to get your stress levels in check in 2018

It’s difficult not to get stressed in our fast-paced lives. Whether you’re working overtime, battling exams, or caring for a
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Three reasons to get your stress levels in check in 2018

How I ended up in The Priory and found hope.

There was a man called Mr B, who  came from a big family of 12; a hard working strict family
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How I ended up in The Priory and found hope.

Is time a great healer or is that a great myth?

I'm recovering from mental health problems. There, I said it. That black dog of depression only occasionally slinks into my brain and
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Is time a great healer or is that a great myth?

STRESS KILLS – RIP whoever you were

Our train was delayed this morning because a man had decided to kill himself further down the line. If I
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STRESS KILLS – RIP whoever you were

Close to home and hoping Sophie Smith is found

The disappearance of 21 year old Gorleston student Sophie Smith has made local and national headlines. There are major concerns
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Close to home and hoping Sophie Smith is found

A wonderful story to share with someone grieving a loved one…

When I was quite young, my father had one of the first telephones in our neighbourhood. I remember well the
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A wonderful story to share with someone grieving a loved one…

Why 2017 was the year everyone talked mental health

I think 2017 was a milestone for mental health in that men (and women) finally found a voice for sharing
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Why 2017 was the year everyone talked mental health

Mindful ways to beat festive stress

Christmas is supposedly one of the happiest times of year but – what with all the planning, spending and socialising
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Mindful ways to beat festive stress

Why tough men should weep

I weep a lot…but then so did my dad…yet another wonderful quality I inherited from him. My dad certainly wasn’t and
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Why tough men should weep

I wanta change my mind but can’t!!!

I wanta change my mind but can’t!!! You can but be prepared for a real scrap!! Part 1 – the power of
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I wanta change my mind but can’t!!!

Solutions to mental health problems – care to share?

The Man Stress trio met last night for food and drink at Turtle Bay, Norwich, and a thoroughly pleasant evening
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Solutions to mental health problems – care to share?

There’s a sea-change in mental health discussions

This site is not about the Zeitgeist, the bandwagon, yet it's captured, we admit, a new mood emerging in this
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There’s a sea-change in mental health discussions

Drink and depression do not mix

Today marks one year since I gave up drinking for good: 19th December 2016. I had to: drink was depressing me;
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Drink and depression do not mix

The Road to Self-Destruction by Gary Parr

Being 40 and having suffered from depression and anxiety since I was about 10, it was a decision that certainly
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The Road to Self-Destruction by Gary Parr

Why do people react differently to stress?

I found this article interesting in that amongst friends and family, I've witnessed different reactions to stress, in similar situations
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Why do people react differently to stress?

Facebook admits it poses mental health risk

Facebook has acknowledged that social media use can be bad for users’ mental health, a sign the company is feeling
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Facebook admits it poses mental health risk

Why does depression tend to increase during the holidays?

Depression tends to increase during the holidays due to an increase in demands (perceived as stressful), family issues, and being
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Why does depression tend to increase during the holidays?

Food and how it can wreck your health

I am not embarrassed to admit that I'm a long term devotee of "Coronation Street" - its theme music and
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Food and how it can wreck your health

Do you love it or hate it?

Marmite has been named today as a good way of reducing stress and anxiety as it is so high in
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Do you love it or hate it?

Why do some areas have high suicide statistics?

This is an interesting report from Lancashire, where Preston and nearby Blackpool are named as statistically high for suicides. READ MORE.
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Why do some areas have high suicide statistics?

My BIG bastard bully…

For many years I would drive everywhere with the world’s biggest bastard bully you will ever meet giving me serious
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My BIG bastard bully…

Depression? – Yes, but I wouldn’t have it any other way!

Depression? – Yes, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. One of my earliest childhood memories comes from a time
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Depression? – Yes, but I wouldn’t have it any other way!

6 months today since Grenfell and a new wave of PTSD

Survivors of the Grenfell Tower disaster are facing a new wave of post-traumatic stress with their chances of treatment hampered
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6 months today since Grenfell and a new wave of PTSD

The 8 year old boy who wants to die

A mother has revealed that she has been waiting several weeks to get urgent help for her eight-year-old son who
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The 8 year old boy who wants to die

Stop picking the scab and let it heal.

I've had a bad few days. Nothing major. Nowt serious. But I feel low. I still am embittered - so much so that some
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Stop picking the scab and let it heal.

The war inside my head – as a soldier.

So I've been debating doing this for quite some time, I feel my views on mental health as a man
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The war inside my head – as a soldier.

Stress in the City

The high-flying banker hadn’t been sleeping for months. While he and his family knew he was under extreme pressure, wasn’t coping,
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Stress in the City

Music therapy may help ease depression

Traditional depression treatments like psychotherapy or medication might work better for some patients when doctors add a dose of music
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Music therapy may help ease depression

Groundhog Day – without the misery

Last weekend, four of us went for a woodland wander; not the usual one man and his dog; but four
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Groundhog Day – without the misery

Can tech support mental health at work?

Imagine stepping into the break room in the office and instead of making yourself some coffee and complaining about work,
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Can tech support mental health at work?

How this project came about

In April 2017, Stuart met Paul via social media and a nascent proposal to become a partnership as 321 Websites
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How this project came about

If it Helps. Practical advice.

Experience of real stress? Imagined stress? Loads. And the articles that I have read on this amazing site make me thankful that my
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If it Helps. Practical advice.

Recovering From Suicidal Depression And Anxiety: Intro To Our Story

Paul spotted this moving article on the Huffington Post and we subsequently connected with Fran and Gary Parr. We would recommend
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Recovering From Suicidal Depression And Anxiety: Intro To Our Story

The Festival – the morning after the night before

It was mid-morning before he felt confident enough to try and get up. Unlike yesterday he had a headache forming
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The Festival – the morning after the night before

Ways to minimise the stress of a workplace

Christmas has its own impending stresses, but I'd argue as a long term sufferer of stress that the workplace makes
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Ways to minimise the stress of a workplace

Children in custody are facing a “significant shortfall” in mental health provision

Children in custody are facing a “significant shortfall” in mental health provision, with some given no access to psychology services
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Children in custody are facing a “significant shortfall” in mental health provision

Stress and why it’s called the silent killer.

I get this all the time from people, friends who've been institutionalised in a job for years that if they
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Stress and why it’s called the silent killer.

Now is the winter of our discontent?

I grew up in the 1970s, now a decade tinted with much nostalgia. We’ve had big screen remakes of Starsky
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Now is the winter of our discontent?

Admit mental health issues and the dinosaurs eat you.

Let's not beat around the bush: some people still have primitive attitudes to mental health. Take me for example; I was
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Admit mental health issues and the dinosaurs eat you.

Alcohol, anxiety and depression.

You and I may love a  drink. I certainly used to, until the habit began affecting my frail mind, my
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Alcohol, anxiety and depression.

Richard ‘The Wiz’ Wilkins – The Script Master, The man who changed my life

The day after my chance meeting with ‘The Wiz’…My affirmation – aged 56 - I've had enough! I've listened to
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Richard ‘The Wiz’ Wilkins – The Script Master, The man who changed my life

How to survive anxiety attacks in certain places

16 stone, 6 foot 2 male, with broken teeth, nose, jaw and then a broken mind. That's what schools did to
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How to survive anxiety attacks in certain places

Know thyself – or get crushed under a steed

Know thyself. In between 1569 and 1570, the exact date is uncertain, Michel Eyquem de Montaigne underwent a life-changing experience. A catastrophic
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Know thyself – or get crushed under a steed

Linkin Park and the death of Chester Bennington

One of my favourite bands of all time are Linkin Park, and it's an understatement to say that I was
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Linkin Park and the death of Chester Bennington

Why do so many footballers suffer from mental health problems?

Depression affects many people but we think it's fair to say that footballers suffer as much, if not more, than
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Why do so many footballers suffer from mental health problems?

Would you allow anyone to treat you as badly as you treat yourself?

What a great question – “would YOU allow anyone to treat YOU as badly as you treat yourself??” This was a
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Would you allow anyone to treat you as badly as you treat yourself?

Parenting should come with a manual – which men don’t ignore

I don't know about you as fellow male (or female) readers but I have a pathological dislike for assembling things
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Parenting should come with a manual – which men don’t ignore

Stay at home men more likely to suffer with mental health issues

Stay-at-home mothers and fathers are more likely to suffer from mental health problems, a study by the International Longevity Centre
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Stay at home men more likely to suffer with mental health issues

Real men don’t cry – well they should.

I’m no advocate of the mantra that real men don’t cry. I’ve got emotional when reading great literature in front
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Real men don’t cry – well they should.

How to support someone with depression

As we head into the holiday season, a time that is jovial and bright for many, it is also a
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How to support someone with depression

You are not your illness!

I always thought I had a healthy relationship with death, I mean after all, we’ve being doing it for centuries
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You are not your illness!

Mental health patients are having to wait for up to two years

Mental health patients are having to wait for up to two years for treatment in parts of England, figures suggest. READ
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Mental health patients are having to wait for up to two years

Part 1 –The Christmas festival

So you think you know your own mind … well think again buster. The whole purpose behind MANSTRESS is to provide you
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Part 1 –The Christmas festival

Why the workplace can make you mentally ill

There's still a huge stigma about admitting to mental health issues; indeed when I admitted to them in my most
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Why the workplace can make you mentally ill

The links between alcohol and mental health

While alcohol can have a very temporary positive impact on our mood, in the long term it can cause big
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The links between alcohol and mental health

How to react when some bastard scratches your new car

“Some bastard scratches your new car and yet you’re so bloody CALM!…aaarrrggghhh!” This scratched car story was told to me by my
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How to react when some bastard scratches your new car

Sectioned for 6 months with no one to talk to

Where do I start on the stress and depression? I suffered with no one to turn to. I was in a relationship
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Sectioned for 6 months with no one to talk to

The slow chipping away of my self-worth

I want to write this anonymously because to state openly that my workplace has made me suffer with anxiety and
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The slow chipping away of my self-worth

“Some exercise will do you good” – I couldn’t get out of bed

When I was first suffering with depression in 2013, many friends solicitously suggested using exercise as a way of curing
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“Some exercise will do you good” – I couldn’t get out of bed

How depression is killing my husband

He tries his best, bless, as they say round here. I hate to get up with another nag; he calls me
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How depression is killing my husband

Why I gave up drinking and what it’s done for me

I posted recently a photo of me one year ago from France when I was a regular consumer of alcohol,
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Why I gave up drinking and what it’s done for me

Road rage attacks on paramedics down to ‘fight-or-flight’?

Paramedics were attacked by a coach driver as they treated a seriously ill patient in south London, police said. The London
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Road rage attacks on paramedics down to ‘fight-or-flight’?

Almost half of all long term sickness is due to mental health problems.

These impact more heavily on your ability to work than any other illness. However, with the right support, people with
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Almost half of all long term sickness is due to mental health problems.

Dog ownership lowers early death risk, study finds

Dog owners have a lower risk of death from cardiovascular disease or other causes, a study of 3.4 million Swedes
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Dog ownership lowers early death risk, study finds

Dyslexics are creative for a reason…KO!!

Repeat after me…I’M DYSLEXIC I’M NOT THICK!! From the moment I first entered the educational systems as a freckled faced child
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Dyslexics are creative for a reason…KO!!

My metaphorical journey as I drifted through life

An extract from my book "Crap Thanks": Imagine a harbour with millions of little sailing boats bobbing around in the calm
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My metaphorical journey as I drifted through life

Strictly speaking I’m not a celebrity but that Iain is still a right bell-end…

“A thought always precedes a reaction”…absolutely 100% FACT. And as we have and will continue to discuss 95% of all
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Strictly speaking I’m not a celebrity but that Iain is still a right bell-end…

How beaches and toxic colleagues make me feel

When you're faced with a life threat: a sabre toothed tiger, a building on fire, a car crash, anxiety at
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How beaches and toxic colleagues make me feel

When you can’t get beyond the Travelodge

I've no great affinity for the Travelodge chain, or any great disdain. They're affordable, clean and convenient - but if
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When you can’t get beyond the Travelodge

Anxiety and how I am tackling it

This feeling isn’t normal. I woke up the other morning and decided to admit defeat and finally do something about it. I
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Anxiety and how I am tackling it

STRESS did what HITLER’S mighty army failed to do

STRESS did what HITLER’S mighty army failed to do...sent my loving dad to heaven. Many years ago when I was going
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STRESS did what HITLER’S mighty army failed to do

“Soiled pants” … the power of our sub-conscious mind

I was very interested in your recent ‘soiled pants’ blog and feel that the following simple explanation might throw some
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“Soiled pants” … the power of our sub-conscious mind

Therapist…“Be a wall not a balloon”…what the hell does that mean??

I was really interested to read Richard’s experiences when confronted by a colleague. As someone who has struggled to deal
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Therapist…“Be a wall not a balloon”…what the hell does that mean??

The tale of Dirk, Fritz and the soiled pants.

So who is Dirk? Well the story goes like this…a tough gunslinger crashes into a salon and everyone, except the pianist,
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The tale of Dirk, Fritz and the soiled pants.

You have no bosses? You are so lucky.

Bosses remind me of childhood, the subconscious, being coerced into doing things I didn't like doing and didn't want to
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You have no bosses? You are so lucky.

Feeling depressed? Get a dog.

I'm no pet lover. Really I'm not. I used to stay straight-faced when Carlson shot Candy's dog or Lennie killed a puppy
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Feeling depressed? Get a dog.

My day, my subconscious, working on autopilot

I get up at 7.00 am, Monday to Friday and perform the same ritual daily. I go downstairs, half fill the
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My day, my subconscious, working on autopilot

How this journey started

The foundation of my journey started when I realised that every negative feeling I had was being manufactured from within.
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How this journey started

Why don’t zebras get ulcers?

I want to talk fight or flight, that primeval instinct that kicks in when threatened in some way. I generally flee. I
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Why don’t zebras get ulcers?

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Depression. Did It Break or Make Me?

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If you’re blue today or any other Monday, change your mindset?

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How I ended up in The Priory and found hope.

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STRESS KILLS – RIP whoever you were

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Depression? – Yes, but I wouldn’t have it any other way!

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The war inside my head – as a soldier.

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If it Helps. Practical advice.

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Donald Trump – is he mentally ill?

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Three reasons to get your stress levels in check in 2018

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The war inside my head – as a soldier.

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So I've been debating doing this for quite some time, I feel my views on mental health as a man were very obscured by the job I am currently in. I'm currently serving in the military but I'm not going to say which branch as I wish to remain anonymous under the fear of what the repercussions of my story could have on myself and my family if any of the chain of command were to find out I was writing this and exposing the corruption behind the job itself. I've been serving for the [...]

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White children are more likely to suffer mental health issues

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The war inside my head – as a soldier.

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