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Battling demon depression – Damien offers sage advice

It has been a couple of weeks since my first post, so just very quickly, I will let you know what I’ve been up to during this period. I have been super busy, I’ve created a YouTube channel (futureRippleMedia) which focuses on numerous topics including: mental health, NHS politics, keeping busy as well as promoting this site, and my charity challenge.

Basically I have set myself the challenge of raising £5,000 this year for the Railway Children, you can find out more about them here: www.railwaychildren.org.uk and you can support me in my efforts here: https://uk.virginmoneygiving.com/fight4children

Any and all support is greatly appreciated.

Now, back to battling that demon ‘depression’. I jumped through endless hoops, multiple assessments and a couple to many appointments with mental health occupational therapists, and just because I absolutely loathed the latter isn’t to say the don’t work, but they just didn’t work in my case. If you are going through tough times, the best thing you can do by all means, is to reach out and make that initial step towards fighting the devil.

For me personally, the answer lied within, I just had to figure out how to open that door, and take control. I’m going to list a number of things that I have done, and continue to do to this day to take a more proactive approach to my particular set of circumstances.

  1. YouTube, I spent, a shit ton of time on YouTube. The amount of content that is readily available at our finger tips is incredible. I would watch anything from: motivation speeches, motivations stories, self-help videos, habit forming videos and videos on dieting for mental health, which is absolutely and massively overlooked option when it comes to tackling mental health, your body AND mind need to be catered for in the same nurturing and love as one another.
  2. Cold showers / Scottish showers. You’re gonna have to believe me here and take a bit of a leap of faith when I say that, cold showers can make you feel invincible. It is an incredibly challenging way to test yourself for 2-3 minutes without leaving the comfort of your home, which I know can be hard when you are having a down day. The will power it takes to achieve this is astronomical and even if you manage it just once, then I take my hat off to you as I’ve been there, and I know it is damn hard! There are various studies supporting what I’ve said and if you are like me and you are sick of this demon on your shoulder, you will be willing to try even the craziest ideas to succeed. Not to mention, there are numerous other health benefits to taking a cold shower and they include fat loss and super loading your body with endorphins to make you feel awesome!
  3. Wake up at 4:30am, sounds like a nightmare right? Well I adopted this at the start of 2018 and the results have been amazing for me, and I am sure they will for you too. How? Let me tell you, getting up at the crack of dawn puts you in control. You are doing something against your normal routine, you are consciously taking yourself out of your comfort zone and forcing your body to comply. YOU ARE THE MASTER after all. Now what you do once you’ve waken up is entirely up to you, but what I do is to follow through on my previous days goals, and that leads me on to my next tip.
  4. Set a reminder for 8pm every evening, the reminder MUST be goals / objectives that you are going to complete the following day, and since you’re going to wake up at 4:30, you have created a fantastic advantage to get these done. My goals are set out in 2 groups: Musts and If Possibles – My musts are set in stone and they are simple:

– Musts

(1) Get out of bed and make it straight away, you’re a lot less likely to get back in once it is made.

(2) Recite our Lord’s Prayer, I’ve never been a religious person, in fact I have never been to church or a service or any kind. However, mentally, this makes me feel strong, it helps me set the mindset that I can and will achieve what I set out to do. You can exercise, shower or whatever else takes your fancy.

(3) Make and enjoy a strong, black coffee. Pretty self explanatory that one.

– If Possibles

(1) I catch up on anything I may of missed the previous day, emails, meeting notes and such forth. Using the time I have given myself to catch up rather than fall behind. If this isn’t applicable, I usually read or research something of interest which for me is anything to do with technology, development or cyber security.

(2) Study, I am presently studying various subjects so getting a good hour or 2 in at this time of day really helps it sink in. I think about it throughout the day and find It lodges itself in my memory that little bit better.

(3) YouTube (I told you, I love it) – Finish the morning strong and find some motivational videos to get some fire in your belly.

Now my goals don’t have to be your goals, I mean hell, if your goal is to have less structure and less goals than go out there and smash it because the whole point of this is to do what makes you feel happy, this stuff just helped me.

Reflect at the end of each day on what you have achieved, you will undoubtedly surprise yourself at what you achieve and continue to achieve each day.

I’ll start wrapping this up here as I’m getting hangry, and you won’t like me when I’m hangry. I’m kidding but I am going to wrap it up with these points.

– Push yourself, you are way stronger than you think.

– Set yourself some goals, daily if possible. – I have over 10 so far this year and counting, previously I’ve been on 0.

And finally, as a final, final point: please do not hesitate to get in touch if you are feeling down, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. You have me and you have the manstress community!

Damien

By | 2018-01-31T10:53:10+00:00 January 31st, 2018|Guest Writer|1 Comment

One Comment

  1. Richard 1st February 2018 at 6:12 am - Reply

    Thank you D for your contribution…I sincerely take my hat of to you for the amazing steps you have taken to not only get back on track but to seemingly rebuild your life. Your journey is a demonstration that humans can change if they really want to, but to do so you have to work bloody hard and stay focused on the end game. The mind is an immensely powerful machine that will, if you allow it to, take you to places that you don’t want to be. I know from your previous post you have been to hell and back and I sincerely hope that other tribe members, will gain from this amazing journey you have been on because it shows that anything is possible if you set your mind to it. Life was never meant to be as tough as it is for modern man but unfortunately because of a screw up by nature, we all have to work a lot harder at keeping the good life that secretly everyone of us desires. Please keep us updated with your progress and thanks again…cheers mate

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