Experience of real stress?
And the articles that I have read on this amazing site make me thankful that my imagination is safely in its box. For now.
The over-riding feeling I gain from the articles is the sense of time and of behaviour.
In my experience, stress, whether it be imagined or real, accumulates over time. It doesn’t just rear its ugly head. It occurs over a period of weeks, months or years when specific needs are not met.
For me, it was instantaneous. A series of short putts as a golfer. Off came the wheels.
Until I learnt that it was a lack of self-awareness on my part that was causing these erratic behaviours.
I went through the Thomas International Behvioural Profiling accreditation to learn about behaviour and its effect on stress.
The D.I.S.C test is used primarily to identify a person’s prefered way of working.
To avoid the square pegs in the workplace round holes.
The four behaviour types are: Dominant, Intuitive, Steady and Compliant.
Turns out everyone is a combination of all four, but there is usually a preferred style of behaviour.
A series of harmless questions identifies your primary and secondary type.
And whether all is well in the world you inhabit.
For example, the Compliant type requires detail, accuracy and a slow pace. If the work does not provide those situations, that can lead to stress. Which builds over time.
It becomes a pattern.
And the answer is ‘pattern-interrupt’.
Deliberately adopting the exact opposite type of behaviour. Until the stress has alleviated.
In that example, it might mean an typically patient accountant adopting the Dominant behaviour for a brief moment. It breaks the pattern.
What is important to recognise is the typical behaviours that bring on stressful situations.
And to handle them early. Rather than let them pass and accumulate.
Easier said than done. It did, however, have a positive effect on my imagined stress.
D.I.S.C profiling was in my dark and distant past.
Were I to succumb to depression these days, I would more than likely resort to spiritual teachings. The most beneficial of which has been that we create the world around us. In every second of every day.
This passage from a book by Neale Donald Walsch:
“All illness is self-created. Most people do so quite unconsciously. People ingest animals and fat and wonder why they get blocked arteries. People smoke and wonder why they get cancer. People stay angry all their lives and wonder why they get heart attacks. People compete with other people – mercilessly and under incredible stress – and wonder why they have strokes.
The not-so-obvious-truth is that most people worry themselves to death.
Worry is just about the worst form of mental activity there is – next to hate, which is deeply self destructive Worry is pointless. It is wasted mental energy. It also creates bio-chemical reactions which harm the body, producing everything from indigestion to coronary arrest……..the conditions under which you ask your body to survive are horrible. And do you know why?
Because you have no will to live.”
A short synopsis of a truly outstanding book that I defy the most brilliant and logical of minds to argue.
But, said differently, stress is self-inflicted and requires a different thought pattern.
Some are capable. Others need help.
Help from a variety of sources. Not just those with the credentials
If it Helps. Practical advice.
Experience of real stress?